What Can I Say?

I’ve been MIA from my blog for a while, but I want to come back!

Honestly, most of my writing has been kept in my physical journal, so there hasn’t been much need or desire to type it and share my thoughts with the world wide web.

Now that I have renewed motivation to write here…what do you want to read from me?

Btw…I’m [lowkey] pondering changing my blog title/name.



What’s Your Love Language?

A few days ago, my sister told me to take a quiz to determine my love language.

The discussion of an individual having a “love language” and the corresponding quiz is based on a series of books written by Gary Chapman, a pastor, marriage counselor, and husband of almost 50 years.

The five possible results to the quiz are the following(love languages):1. Words of Affirmation, 2. Acts of Service, 3. Receiving Gifts, 4. Quality Time, 5. Physical Touch.

Well, I took the quiz(the ‘For Singles’ version). Let me just tell you all that based on this quiz, I am not the biggest fan of physical touch. You get a score in each of the 5 languages, and your highest one is obviously the most dominant.

I scored my highest (12) in the Quality Time language, followed by Words of Affirmation. That didn’t really surprise me.

Here’s the ‘quick-and-to-the-point’ explanation, abridged from the bestselling book, of the Quality Time language: In Quality Time, nothing says “I love you” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes you feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed activities, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful. Whether itʼs spending uninterrupted time talking with someone else or doing activities together, you deepen your connection with others through sharing time.

In church today, one of the points that Pastor Adam made, in part 1 of a 2-part ‘Home Improvement’ series, was ‘maximizing the moments’. In a family, spending time together is extremely important. Many of the greatest moments in life don’t cost anything and are spent with the best people.

When I’m with my best friends or my siblings, we don’t need to be doing much of anything, going anywhere, or have any planned activities…just being together in one room, joking, laughing, cooking, eating, watching television, or just laying around and we have a good time.

Anywho…that’s one more thing to know about me. Quality Time is my love language.

What’s yours? http://www.5lovelanguages.com/profile/


Jesus Culture in Concert.

JC concert 2

"We won't be perfect, Lord...but we'll be yours."

“We won’t be perfect, Lord…but we’ll be yours.”

On May 19, I attended a Jesus Culture concert. It was the Charlotte, NC stop on the Still Believe tour with Kim Walker-Smith.

If you’ve been reading my blog long enough, you know about my last Christian concert experience featuring HIllsong United. Can I just say that this concert may have been even better? Even with my excitement at how great it was, I hesitate ever-so-slightly at calling it a concert.

For all intensive purposes, it was a concert. I bought a ticket(premium/VIP, if I might add), had to present a physical ticket at the door, and I had a seat…but it was a great worship experience. I said it in my post about Hillsong; in venues such as coliseums and arenas where large groups of people come together to worship as one, I always imagine what Heaven will be like. Where people of different colors, of different walks of life, of different “sides of the track”, of various occupations and fields of study come together with abandon with one purpose: to praise the name of the Most High.

Their newest album drops tomorrow and I’m uber excited. If you don’t know much about them, check out the “Still Believe” album by Kim Walker-Smith and the brand new(tomorrow) album, Unstoppable Love. You won’t regret it.

Until next post…


Wedding Season Has Begun!!

Hey Everybody!

It’s been a month since I last posted and SO much has happened since. There are going to be a few posts over the next couple of days…I have to catch up!

This post will be about my first wedding as an adult, a real invited guest(most of the weddings I’ve attended didn’t include an official invitation), and what I believe was my first non-Nigerian wedding.

A co-worker of mine from Asheboro(my former work location) got married at a cute rustic, country event center. The venue was just breathtaking. The ceremony took place outside, lakeside, at 7pm. The weather was perfect for an outdoor wedding. I told my sisters the next day…it was a perfect pinterest wedding! The guest book was smooth rocks to be written on, there were mason jars everywhere, the colors were gray, yellow, and white, the groomsmen and ring bearers had on suspenders(adorable), there was a photo booth and Lindsey was GORGEOUS!

I truly enjoyed myself at the Kilby-Brown wedding. The pastor/officiant was so personable. He spoke about the lives of Zach and Lindsey, their dedication to keeping their relationship and love based in/on the love of Jesus Christ, and their absolutely cute ‘high school sweethearts’ love story.

I had a great time.

Until next post…


Photo booth fun!

Photo booth fun!

Being Christ-ian.

This post is going to be blunt.

Social media, the world wide web, and our human nature to want a “role model” has created a big problem in many Christians.

We follow Christian celebrities on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. We like their pictures. We say “aww” when they post about their spouses and kids. We love and/or envy their wardrobes. We want to know where they shop. Who is their tailor, seamstress, hair stylist, personal makeup artist? Unknowingly, we begin to follow their “life” with Christ, not the message of Jesus Christ.

Why do we even have Christian celebrities? The only Christian “celebrity” should be Jesus Christ.

Don’t get me wrong. Is it great that these people are using technology to spread the Gospel? No. Is it a problem that some people have become the model of Christianity…even though they are but men? Absolutely.

I love the music made by Jesus Culture, Hillsong United, and Israel Houghton, but…do I need to love and/or be obsessed with them? No.

There has been a transfer of “obsession” from secular artists, characters, speakers, or celebrities to those who have achieved “stardom” talking about God.

We should NOT be obsessed with pastors. We should NOT “follow” tele-, e-, or mobile-evangelists. We should NOT “be like” Christian artists.

We are called to be like Christ. We are meant to follow Jesus.

I don’t model my Christian walk after any human. Nobody should.

We should model our Christian walk after Christ.

Read the Bible for yourself. Don’t rely on instagram-size bites of the Word. Find out about God for yourself. It’s worth it.

Be Christ-ian.



The Other Half.

Believe you can and you’re halfway there. –Theodore Roosevelt

This is a great quote, and wonderful motivation…if you’re willing to commit to the remaining half that is required to actually reach “there”.

With graduation season getting closer, I find myself reminiscing my college years.

Here are some things I learned in college:

1. You can decide to be one of many, or one of the few and far between.

2. Take charge of your education/life. You can only experience what you allow yourself to.

3. Be a sponge. Take it all in.

4. Discover your interests/passions. Most schools have a ridiculous number of extracurricular activities, organizations, and opportunities. Join and lead.

5. If you’re going to “fail” at something, do it there. College is the biggest safety net I’ve ever had. Once you leave/graduate…”failure” becomes a MUCH bigger deal.

6. There are many things you will come to know about yourself when you have total freedom. Appreciate the process.

In college, I believed that I could…and I chose to pursue the other half.

While I haven’t gotten “there” yet, it’s nice to think back and be assured that I’m on the right track.

In short, ol’ Teddy had the correct idea, but I have a little addition to the quote. It goes like this:

“Believe you can and you’re halfway there. Specify your destination, create a sample itinerary, identify alternative routes…and you might just make it.”

Until next time…

-Misfit.halfway there


Learning to Live

Good Morning.

Right now, it’s just after 6am. I’ve been awake for about 2 hours for no reason. Whenever I wake up early, I get to thinking, singing, praying, or reading…sometimes, all of the above.

Today’s train of thought it “learning to live”.

I’ve always been such a “busy” person. Tobi always has something to do. I always have somewhere to be. There is always so much to be done. Tobi’s schedule is always packed. I don’t have time for that.

I realize that because I’ve always focused on not being idle, I haven’t really given myself time or the opportunity to enjoy living. I know I’m young (only 21), but this habit of being “busy” has been going on for at LEAST 8 years.

Let that sink in.

Whether I was dancing or singing at church, just going to church, attending an event for school, planning an event for an organization, meeting with a class group, having weekly meetings for organizations, or just going to class…I haven’t given myself any time to sit back, relax, and “enjoy the show”. I really can’t explain why.

Right now…I’m changing. For the first time in almost a decade, I’m making a conscious decision to set time aside to enjoy myself. I’m trying to learn how to say ‘no’ for my personal sanity. It isn’t easy. I still find myself agreeing to projects, events, appointments, and non-leisure travel because I’m so used to doing so. Learning to live hasn’t been an easy transition so far.

The point is that I’m trying. I read something online once that said the number 1 regret of people dying is that they didn’t take the time to LIVE. I don’t plan on being like those people. I want to enjoy life.

I’m learning to live.



Free to Live.